Pete, my bestie, is a great problem solver.

He can pull a lawnmower apart and put it back together again, without leaving behind any nuts or bolts.

He can be the emergency plumber, electrician, nurse and midwife, vet or gardener.

Today, he wields his problem solving expertise in the field of functional medicine, by running specific metabolic tests, and connecting the dots between your story and the evidence of his testings.

He can fix your sciatica, test your allergies and make you feel calm and restored again.

He is very diligent and trustworthy.

But he does have a few flaws!

The thing with Pete is, that his subconscious mind is always looking for problems to fix, even when there aren’t any!

So, Pete is always busy fixing.

Now, this wouldn’t be a problem if Pete really enjoyed it, but most of our day to day problems aren’t very enjoyable, they are frustrating and a waste of time.

I suggested to Peter that he writes a letter to the Universe, stating that he has resigned from that job, that he has moved on.

He did it, but it made no difference……

The printer broke down. Then he had a problem with the car.
Suddenly we had no power to part of the house. Then there was a leak in the kitchen cupboard. The lawnmower died. Our bookwork didn’t add up…. and so on….

Everyday there was something else.

Needless to say that Pete was totally indispensable.

Our team members were always looking for him, he was constantly fixing stuff and helping out.

It was really impacting our relationship, because the more issues there were to solve, the less present he was.

We often had little arguments about it with me accusing him that he had to fix his problem solving addiction.

Pete would say: What else do you expect me to do? I can’t be doing more?

I would counter with: Excuses, excuses.

You either have results or excuses! Which one do you choose?

“I am doing everything I can to change it, I simply leave the rest up to the Universe.”

(Now, I could have given Pete a clearing session to remove his sabotages, but I wanted Pete to ‘man up’ and fix himself!)

Suddenly, Pete enjoyed a few good days. Nothing was falling apart. Nobody needed him.

When I asked him how come, how did he do it, he had to sit down and think for a while.

“I want to know what changed for you, so you can do it again” I said.

“Because it is one thing to achieve your goal, it’s another thing to remember the process so you can do it again and again and again.”

“I changed my perspective!” Peter said.

“Instead of thinking: oh no, not another break down, the Universe really has it in for me! or something like that, I made sure I felt a deep sense of gratitude every time there was a problem to fix.”

“I loved myself for it.

I spend some time turning my thoughts around till I wasn’t just OK with it, I even felt thankfulness.

Then suddenly everything shifted!’

Pete looked pretty chuffed with himself as he reflected on his wins and the fact that he finally got his subconscious on his side.

I have to admit that I was relieved as well!

Today, I want to give you 5 tips to help you reach your goals and get the results you want!

The trick is to get your conscious AND your subconscious mind in alignment, working together for your highest good.

Your Conscious mind is the goal setter and your subconscious mind is the goal getter!

Your conscious mind resembles the spark and your unconscious mind is the dynamite!

We are 95% subconscious during the day and 100% subconscious at night when we sleep, so it makes sense that we bring this horsepower into the picture to help us get the results we want.

Do you ever find yourself using kind of this self-talk?

“Oh no, I have missed out again. I am so dumb!”

“Why would I even bother, I have failed in the past and it will happen again.”

“I don’t deserve success, I botched up last time my boss put his trust in me to get the job done!”

“Something always goes wrong at the last minute, and the Universe hates me.”

If you have thoughts like this, you are not alone.

The 60,000 negative messages we give ourselves daily is what holds us back from achieving our dreams in life.

Your thoughts trigger emotions which create your reality.

If you subconsciously believe you don’t have what it takes, like Peter did, you will never achieve your goals.

The good news is that you can change your thoughts and feelings and you can change your life!



Become aware of your thoughts. You can’t be lazy in this department! Remember we send ourselves 60,000 negative messages per day, and if we can reduce this by even 10%, we are able to move mountains.

For instance, every time you step into the car, or into your house or into work, stop in your tracks, take a deep breath and take a moment to reflect on what thoughts you were thinking at that moment.

Were they supportive of you?
Were they kind to you?
Were they fear based, or love based?
Were they judgmental or unconditionally loving?

If they were negative or harmful, catch yourself and turn the thoughts around. Or simply think of something beautiful, like a sunset, or a flower or something as uncomplicated as a green leaf on a bush.

Tell yourself how awesome you are. You are as important as Mount Everest and as resilient as the trees in the forest, and spend some time thinking about some wins you had in the past.


Stop watching the news.

The news we watch is written to provoke anger, fear, helplessness and outrage.

If you stopped watching the news that would be at least 365 hours per year saved.

Which is about 2.5 months of extra time (in work weeks) to invest in yourself, to take better care of yourself, read or meditate or walk to upgrade your thinking.

Or ring an old friend or loved one that you have lost touch with.

That’s a good investment.


Change your focus. Instead of thinking how bad and dark the world is, and what a lost cause your relatives are, see that the world is full of kindness and beauty.

There are human beings doing incredible things.

You are one of those people. Tell yourself that you are pretty awesome, which is the truth!


All the times I have failed, I have learnt something new.

There is actually no such thing as failure, only feedback.

Every failure brings me closer to success.


Start a gratefulness journal and spend some time every day to remember what you appreciate about your life. You have clean water, ample food, your pet loves you unconditionally, you have electricity at your fingertips, the government who pays for your sickness bills, there is so much beauty in the world, you are eating better than kings did a hundred years ago, and life is so full of wonderful things, you could write in your dairy all day.

Make thankfulness a daily practice.

Reading, writing, thinking, and speaking out loud what you are thankful for is probably the most powerful action of all 5!

Thank you for being part of my wonderful community and for sharing your experiences with me and for being in my life!

Much love as always, Grada

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Peter is our 21st century medical detective.

Peter works with clients who need clear answers fast, so their bodies and minds begin to heal, their energy levels are restored so they can be productive and enjoy life again.

Peter is an authority in functional medicine. Through the tools of live and dried blood research as well as urine and saliva testing, Peter pinpoints exactly where things go wrong and shows his clients a return to health in the shortest possible time.

For decades, Peter has treated thousands of people at his wellness centre, focusing on the root cause of disease, supporting and educating his clients to be in charge of their own health and destiny.